I think it is very thoughtful for you to ask this question. Me, todays is my husband's and my anniversary. He works on night jobs right now, and me during the day. He came home at around 5:00 am and I get up a few minuets later to get the kids off to school quietly......we barely say hello to each other!
I pretend it does not bother me that my husband and I have not celebrated an anniversary in about 5 years. We have not been on a vacation in as long. I was going to take my kids on a coastal California road trip a couple of weeks ago, but stuff happened with the projects I was working on and I had to board a few planes and meet my clients...and go to my offices all over the place to sit with the guys and plan.
I envy the girls who have husbands that have the time to buy cards and send flowers. I would kill to be taken to dinner by someone other than a vendor. I put on a brave face and tell my husband I love him and that it does not matter that I do not have those things....but it does.
I know he is doing his best to provide for the family. I dare not start act like a spoiled brat because of the silly little romantic gestures do not come my way. I know he works such weird hours in the field that there is no time or way to obtain them.....still, it would be nice to get a card.....or at the very least, have the time to sit down and talk over lunch......or to do the other things a married couple should do that I cant mention.
What really hurts the most, is that our kids are getting older, and we have no memories of vacations and trips to Disneyland. They were so good when at the last moment I had to cancel the road trip we planned and looked forward to. Our priorities are all mixed up. Work should not come before trips, cards, meals together, time to talk and hug each other......such is the world we live in.......this is my only moment to grieve for my families loss, I hope my husband never sees my cry over this........I will bite my lip and suck it up before he wakes!
Thanks for reading and good luck to all!
Gal
Re: Dilemma
Member #: 28412
Registered: 1/28/2004
Posted:
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Name:
Kim Dehne
Name:
Kim Dehne
Location:
California
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