Unfortunately this discussion board is percieved as a chat room to some, and they occassionally become disoriented during the discussion ( when the browser refreshes, they lose thier chronological perception ) I have noticed the effects this has on many members over the years.
I believe it may be possible, if you were to print out the entire thread, and list it chronologically ( hour:minute:second ), you may have a different perspective.
I am a male, but, this topic has affected me in several ways in the past. A few examples :(a) I was married once, we had a seperation, and she aborted during that seperation, without me having any knowledge til after the fact. I desperately wanted to have children at that time in my life.[ out of my control - God's will ...] (b) I once was asked by a life-long friend to please accompany her to the clinic (I was not the father ) ( the situation had been thoroughly discussed , including counselling { but , there were serious medical reasons wieghing heavily on the decision } ) , we were assalted verbally , and almost physically in front of the clinic. It was an extremely traumatic experience for her. [ not out of her control, but, medically adviseable - God's will...] (c) I am adopted ( have never met my biological, am aware I was the product of an arranged adoption ) , have grown up in a disfunctional family ( even to this day ), went to psychotherapy for several years ( severe identity crisis ) due alot to the disfunction. [ originally out of my control-most would think it was the "next right thing" being adopted-caused me harm which I had to seek out help and correct on my own-will never know what it is like to be the member of a " Normal " family-God's will... ]
The synopsys of my 3 examples - situations which may at first seem as though the " right thing to do " was obvious, yet , if/when followed brought more harm and suffering. As you have mentioned, others might be more sympathetic to someone else if they could relate to a situation that might have effected them directly in thier life. It does not mean that they are wrong in thier beliefs, that is thier freedom.
I remain neutral on this issue ( abortion ) and the pros/cons of adoption. Have felt both sides of both issues. What I did learn which allowed me to find some peace - acceptance of God's will for me ( I am not a religious finatic or bible-thumper. I am referring to a spiritual belief found through self-help ) I hope you were able to relax some. Believe that others understand you, and do empathize.
