For me my son comes first. Last month I turned down a job that I wanted, in a place I want to live. His mother and I are only together for him anymore. When your child grows up then it can become about you again. The girlfriend or new wife will always have a problem with your child, especially if you have another child with them. The added bonus is reduced support for getting partial custody.
Never argue with an idiot, they will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience. Winston Churchill
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